Getting Ready For Marriage: Authentic Steps To Take Now
It amazes me so much how couples put all their efforts and time into preparing for their wedding and spend little or no time at all getting ready for marriage itself. It is supposed that the couple should take a good time to consider things like how to take care of finances, how to take care of the children, the number of children you want to have as well as who will take charge of whatever, before getting married.
These things are supposed to be a priority, but they are not even thought about until after the wedding and that’s why there are so many broken marriages today. If you are about to wed in no distant time from now and have never thought about the life that comes after the wedding, then this post is for you, I will show you some things you’ll need to do as you are getting ready for marriage.
If you are ready, then let’s get going now.
Ways Of Getting Ready For Marriage:
1) Get Your Finances Right:
Financial planning is an important thing to do when you are getting ready for marriage. One of the challenges that rear up its head a few years after the wedding is the issue of money. A survey by Sun Trust Bank shows that 35% of arguments in marriage come from the issues of money and that if it takes a couple of years for couples to recover from other challenges, many couples never recover from that caused by money.
The fact is that couples don’t just have issues about money, they hide their transactions from each other.
However, this issue of money would have been sorted out before the wedding, but who wants to talk about that when everyone is so excited about the wedding itself?
To avoid it from happening in your marriage, you have to start early and think of how to go about things like – whether you will have a joint account or not, how to pay the bills, and other important things.
2) Set Goals For Your Marriage:
Setting goals for your marriage is not just about having career success, it is also an important way of getting ready for marriage. In the same way, you set goals for your work or business to make you increase your productivity, you should also set goals for your relationship if you want it successful.
Setting goals helps you strengthen your marriage because it gives you the strength to work as a team to achieve a common goal. Setting goals also helps you and your better half understand each other and also helps you achieve great fulfillment in other aspects of your marriage.
It’s a very good idea for both of you to talk about your future dreams.
How would you like your relationship to be in the next 3,5,7 or more years?
It all starts with what you do today.
3) Talk About Your Expectations:
Having open communication about your expectations is still an important component of getting ready for marriage. Communication still stands as the number one bedrock of every successful relationship and you need to start from your time of dating to get it right since both of you are planning to be a team.
It’s also pertinent that both of you should be open as you talk about anything that matters as you discuss your future marriage. As a couple-to-be, there is a need to discuss household, intimacy, roles, finances, and other important things.
4) Give Up Your Bad Habits:
Many marriages are strained today because many couples are unable to break their habits.You see= }}
habits are very common to everyone whether it’s good or bad, but while the good ones help to build your relationship, the other will interfere negatively in your marriage.
And so the best thing to do is to take absolute care of those habits you know can be detrimental to your relationship. It may be drinking habit, gambling, or drugs; whatever it is, the way forward is to give them up completely before getting into marriage so that your problem doesn’t become your marriage problem.
Addressing those negative habits of yours is a clear indication that you are getting ready for marriage.
5) Clear Your Debts:
The best way to begin a relationship is to start “fresh.” Getting into any relationship with a shipload of debts will overwhelm your relationship because the time both of you will use to focus on your future finances will be devoted to how to settle your old debts and the greatest tension and stress will start when your debtors will start knocking on your door.
To avoid that from happening, make sure you settle your debts before getting married.
6) Have a relationship with God:
With God, all things are possible, and without Him, nothing can work.
If you want to have a good and successful marriage, then you must let Christ pilot the boat of the touring relationship.
Firstly, you have to get your relationship with God right before your relationship will work out. After that, ask Him to lead, and then go ahead and follow Him, for He will never disappoint you.
7) Learn good communication skills:
Mastering how to communicate effectively with your partner before the wedding is undoubtedly key to getting ready for marriage. If communication is important in marriage and 45% of marriages are destroyed by lack of good communication, then there’s a need to get your communication skills right.
The fact is that the closer we become to someone, the easier we tend to hurt them or they hurt us, and so you must be careful with your choice of words because it is not always what we say that matters but his we say it.
If you find it hard to communicate properly with your spouse, maybe you find yourselves quarreling anytime you want to discuss as husband and wife, then you must work on your communication skills. One way to improve your skills is to be a good listener, I mean listening more often with undivided attention than talking.
8) Understand Each Other’s Conflict Resolution Styles Before Marriage:
Another important thing to do when getting ready for marriage is to try to understand your spouse’s conflict resolution styles.
The truth is that every couple must have disagreements and squabbles in their marriage, but what matters is how they handle it. If handled well, the relationship won’t have a problem, but if not it will be strained. Take time to find out how your partner wants to communicate: do they prefer direct discussion, or need time to process?
Having open conversations about your past conflicts or how to resolve your issues is also crucial. Also, be an active listener, be calm when expressing your feelings, and seek compromise when necessary.
When you are unable to fix things, then it will be appropriate to consider pre-marital counseling. By understanding how to handle your conflicts constructively, it will be easier for you to build a better foundation of empathy and communication.
Then you will know you ardo they e ready for marriage?
9) Learn To Forgive And Practice Grace Daily:
Learning to forgive your partner for their actions is one of the important emotional steps to take when you are getting ready for marriage. It allows you to trash all your past hurts and clear your heart for the journey ahead.
Forgiveness brings trust and harmony into a marriage, and both are the essential ingredients for a successful marriage. Also, when you extend grace, it will also be easier to approach your disagreements without judgment, but with empathy.
Practicing forgiveness and grace in your marriage daily, will make your marriage foundation stronger to resist any challenges.
Conclusion On Ways Of Getting Ready For Marriage:
When getting ready for marriage, you must be intentional and be prepared more than you do to have a successful wedding. Ensure you address your finances and communication and be ready to build yourself up too.
Doing these will help you lay a solid foundation for your marriage and remember that a successful marriage doesn’t happen by chance.
Happy marriage doesn’t come by merely wishing for it too, you have to build it through grace, understanding, and grace.
If you are serious about getting ready for marriage, then follow all the steps I have listed here, and invest invest in a future filled with passion. Stop whatever you are doing now and swing to action and you’ll thank me later for the results you will get. Be committed and you will be ready for the best marriage on earth.
I am still your In-house counselor, Murphyaik.
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