9 Best Ways To Single-Handedly Save Your Marriage Now.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
However, whether your partner is impassive about the whole issue or not, if you know quite well what you feel about your marriage and believe you can single-handedly save it and make it work successfully again, then congratulations!
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
The very reason why most people go through a life of sorrow and pain in their marriage or relationship is because of their inability to understand the key ingredients that make a marriage fail or succeed.
However, whether your partner is impassive about the whole issue or not, if you know quite well what you feel about your marriage and believe you can single-handedly save it and make it work successfully again, then congratulations!
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Here is why.
The very reason why most people go through a life of sorrow and pain in their marriage or relationship is because of their inability to understand the key ingredients that make a marriage fail or succeed.
However, whether your partner is impassive about the whole issue or not, if you know quite well what you feel about your marriage and believe you can single-handedly save it and make it work successfully again, then congratulations!
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
Here is why.
The very reason why most people go through a life of sorrow and pain in their marriage or relationship is because of their inability to understand the key ingredients that make a marriage fail or succeed.
However, whether your partner is impassive about the whole issue or not, if you know quite well what you feel about your marriage and believe you can single-handedly save it and make it work successfully again, then congratulations!
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
It may have been because of some emotional or physical abuse, quarrels, fighting, unsettled disputes, infidelity, addiction to alcohol, drugs, or photographs, or even from long disconnection with each other due to work or personal choices.
Although all these are happening in your marriage, you don’t want a divorce, you can’t stand losing your marriage, and you have been trying so hard to see if things will turn around and be the way they used to be before. But you realized something strange in your partner’s behavior.
There seems to be no atom of interest left in him anymore, and you are asking if it is possible to single-handedly save your marriage?
Here is my answer to your question:
Indeed, if your partner didn’t want to read that marriage self-help book, meet a marriage counselor with you. All you get from him is indeed a pale face or those encouraging words that all will be okay, yet you are looking at the years going by without any difference. You have seen a lot of others with this same problem, and while some are either getting good support from their partners, some got fed up and left the marriage believing it was much better to be alone or get to someone else with better promises of a good life.
But you are not getting support from your partner, and yet you have a plan to stay and single-handedly save your marriage.
Let me give you this good news now: some marriages are indeed destined to fall flat, no matter how much you have invested in them to make them work. But since you have a dream to single-handedly save your marriage, then you can save your marriage when you are so determined to take the steps, and I will share those steps with you in this article.
Here is why.
The very reason why most people go through a life of sorrow and pain in their marriage or relationship is because of their inability to understand the key ingredients that make a marriage fail or succeed.
However, whether your partner is impassive about the whole issue or not, if you know quite well what you feel about your marriage and believe you can single-handedly save it and make it work successfully again, then congratulations!
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
There may be moments in your marriage when you realize that, for one reason or another, the love, joy, and peace you once enjoyed in your marriage/relationship have deteriorated so much that all you and your spouse are thinking now is if there is any way to end it, maybe through a divorce.
It may have been because of some emotional or physical abuse, quarrels, fighting, unsettled disputes, infidelity, addiction to alcohol, drugs, or photographs, or even from long disconnection with each other due to work or personal choices.
Although all these are happening in your marriage, you don’t want a divorce, you can’t stand losing your marriage, and you have been trying so hard to see if things will turn around and be the way they used to be before. But you realized something strange in your partner’s behavior.
There seems to be no atom of interest left in him anymore, and you are asking if it is possible to single-handedly save your marriage?
Here is my answer to your question:
Indeed, if your partner didn’t want to read that marriage self-help book, meet a marriage counselor with you. All you get from him is indeed a pale face or those encouraging words that all will be okay, yet you are looking at the years going by without any difference. You have seen a lot of others with this same problem, and while some are either getting good support from their partners, some got fed up and left the marriage believing it was much better to be alone or get to someone else with better promises of a good life.
But you are not getting support from your partner, and yet you have a plan to stay and single-handedly save your marriage.
Let me give you this good news now: some marriages are indeed destined to fall flat, no matter how much you have invested in them to make them work. But since you have a dream to single-handedly save your marriage, then you can save your marriage when you are so determined to take the steps, and I will share those steps with you in this article.
Here is why.
The very reason why most people go through a life of sorrow and pain in their marriage or relationship is because of their inability to understand the key ingredients that make a marriage fail or succeed.
However, whether your partner is impassive about the whole issue or not, if you know quite well what you feel about your marriage and believe you can single-handedly save it and make it work successfully again, then congratulations!
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
It is possible to single-handedly save your marriage, no matter how far it has deteriorated. Have you ever looked at the situations in your marriage and wondered if things would be the way they were years ago?
There may be moments in your marriage when you realize that, for one reason or another, the love, joy, and peace you once enjoyed in your marriage/relationship have deteriorated so much that all you and your spouse are thinking now is if there is any way to end it, maybe through a divorce.
It may have been because of some emotional or physical abuse, quarrels, fighting, unsettled disputes, infidelity, addiction to alcohol, drugs, or photographs, or even from long disconnection with each other due to work or personal choices.
Although all these are happening in your marriage, you don’t want a divorce, you can’t stand losing your marriage, and you have been trying so hard to see if things will turn around and be the way they used to be before. But you realized something strange in your partner’s behavior.
There seems to be no atom of interest left in him anymore, and you are asking if it is possible to single-handedly save your marriage?
Here is my answer to your question:
Indeed, if your partner didn’t want to read that marriage self-help book, meet a marriage counselor with you. All you get from him is indeed a pale face or those encouraging words that all will be okay, yet you are looking at the years going by without any difference. You have seen a lot of others with this same problem, and while some are either getting good support from their partners, some got fed up and left the marriage believing it was much better to be alone or get to someone else with better promises of a good life.
But you are not getting support from your partner, and yet you have a plan to stay and single-handedly save your marriage.
Let me give you this good news now: some marriages are indeed destined to fall flat, no matter how much you have invested in them to make them work. But since you have a dream to single-handedly save your marriage, then you can save your marriage when you are so determined to take the steps, and I will share those steps with you in this article.
Here is why.
The very reason why most people go through a life of sorrow and pain in their marriage or relationship is because of their inability to understand the key ingredients that make a marriage fail or succeed.
However, whether your partner is impassive about the whole issue or not, if you know quite well what you feel about your marriage and believe you can single-handedly save it and make it work successfully again, then congratulations!
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
It is possible to single-handedly save your marriage, no matter how far it has deteriorated. Have you ever looked at the situations in your marriage and wondered if things would be the way they were years ago?
There may be moments in your marriage when you realize that, for one reason or another, the love, joy, and peace you once enjoyed in your marriage/relationship have deteriorated so much that all you and your spouse are thinking now is if there is any way to end it, maybe through a divorce.
It may have been because of some emotional or physical abuse, quarrels, fighting, unsettled disputes, infidelity, addiction to alcohol, drugs, or photographs, or even from long disconnection with each other due to work or personal choices.
Although all these are happening in your marriage, you don’t want a divorce, you can’t stand losing your marriage, and you have been trying so hard to see if things will turn around and be the way they used to be before. But you realized something strange in your partner’s behavior.
There seems to be no atom of interest left in him anymore, and you are asking if it is possible to single-handedly save your marriage?
Here is my answer to your question:
Indeed, if your partner didn’t want to read that marriage self-help book, meet a marriage counselor with you. All you get from him is indeed a pale face or those encouraging words that all will be okay, yet you are looking at the years going by without any difference. You have seen a lot of others with this same problem, and while some are either getting good support from their partners, some got fed up and left the marriage believing it was much better to be alone or get to someone else with better promises of a good life.
But you are not getting support from your partner, and yet you have a plan to stay and single-handedly save your marriage.
Let me give you this good news now: some marriages are indeed destined to fall flat, no matter how much you have invested in them to make them work. But since you have a dream to single-handedly save your marriage, then you can save your marriage when you are so determined to take the steps, and I will share those steps with you in this article.
Here is why.
The very reason why most people go through a life of sorrow and pain in their marriage or relationship is because of their inability to understand the key ingredients that make a marriage fail or succeed.
However, whether your partner is impassive about the whole issue or not, if you know quite well what you feel about your marriage and believe you can single-handedly save it and make it work successfully again, then congratulations!
The reason I am writing this report is to show you some steps that will help you single-handedly save your failing marriage and make it happy once more. But have this in mind: it may not be easier for you in the beginning, but just one step at a time, and you will see things changing for the better. If this is really what you want to do, then I will show you how you are going Single-handedly save your marriage when only you are interested.
Now let’s go.
Just relax your mind and believe all will work out at last.
Below are two simple steps to follow:
How to single-handedly save your marriage.
Step one
1) Change from inside:
One sure step to take when you are on your road to single-handedly saving your marriage is to change anything. Look at the man in the mirror and start the change from there; you may be the cause. Also, your perspective on things must change too; always try to see things from a different point of view. Most times, you think you are very sure of your partner; you think you can vouch for the way your partner thinks, feels, or acts.
Empathize with your spouse.
Your spouse’s reactions to certain situations may be motivated by fear, and you probably have not taken the time to figure out what he or she is afraid of. I believe your next step should be to understand what makes him or her very defensive or aggressive whenever you are having a conversation.
You may be shocked to understand their reasons, so instead of making things worse by the way you react too, try and know the reasons for those actions.
Change your focus.
Let the whole focus of change begin with you. Your relationship will start taking on a new shape if you make up your mind to change yourself and not your partner. Of course, you cannot force someone else to change and be what you want; it is impossible.
However, if you want to single-handedly save your marriage, then change your actions and your attitude, and you are halfway to saving your marriage.
The reason you should change is to become a more caring and more loving person than you were before and it begins by changing your attitude.
Take responsibility for your actions.
According to one Greek philosopher, “people are disturbed not by what happens to them but by the principles they form with those things.” Simply put, never attribute your grievances to others but yourself. The best thing to do when things are not working well is to change your physical or mental response towards them. You can only achieve this by focusing on the good side of your spouse and overlooking their inconsistent behaviors. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you. Take every one of your spouse’s mistakes as a process of growth and learning instead of a good invitation to nag.
How To Single-handedly Save Your Marriage:
Step two
1. Identify where the problem is:
Before you decide to start the journey to single-handedly save your marriage, you must try and understand the real cause of the problems in your marriage. Things don’t just happen; there must be a reason why your spouse is behaving like that, and until you know, it may be difficult for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes we are so ignorant of what our actions and manners may be causing in our marriage.
You can try this too.
One day, I asked my wife to write down some of the things about me that needed urgent change. I was so surprised to see her list; it was endless, and to my utmost surprise, most of the things on the list were the things I thought I was doing well. Things like comparing your spouse with others outside, not taking care of their needs, and not being there when they are needed most.
All these things I mention sound so simple, but they can kill your marriage before you realize it.
It’s important.
Why not try such a thing? Ask your spouse to score you on what you are doing well and where you need to change. You will be surprised too; you may even want to start defending yourself or trying to tell how wonderful a partner you are, but that is not necessary. All you need to do now is show how willing you are to become the best souse from that moment on.
2. Emotional abuse is the worst.
So many marriages are breaking up because people think they are doing their best, but they are doing worse. Emotional abuse is the worst thing that can happen to any marriage. Just think about all those things that need to be changed and start working on them this minute. How is your communication going? Believe it or not, any marriage that doesn’t have good communication is as good as dead. If there is no communication at all, then try and build it; if it is poor, then improve it. Know when to talk and when to listen.
3. Words are powerful:
Carefully choose the words you use during heated moments; it can be very easy to forget someone’s actions, but words are always there in the heart. Just try and learn new communication skills if possible. Understand the types of conversations that hurt your marriage and eliminate them, but concentrate more on those that inspire you and your spouse. That’s a way to single-handedly save your marriage when only one of you is interested.
4. Check your trust bank account:
Another thing to check when trying to single-handedly save your marriage is the level of trust that exists in your marriage. Trust is another important factor when you are trying to single-handedly save your marriage from collapsing. Think back and see if there is anything you did in the past that has made your partner lose trust in you. From the list, my wife wrote about the things I need to change about myself; one of the things that appeared many times was trust.
Trust is very important when you are trying to build strong intimacy in your marriage. From my wife’s list, I realized that I promised so many things that I did not do: I promised to get some gifts and I forgot; I promised to fix a bulb in the kitchen and didn’t do it on time.
5. Keep your promises:
All these little promises made her lose confidence in some of my words. There may be ways you have betrayed your trust; just look back, and when you realize what it is, the next step is to start rebuilding trust. Building trust takes time, so you must be patient, consistent, and resilient too. If you think this is something you cannot do alone, you can choose to employ the services of a marriage therapist.
They may be exactly what you need to get your failing marriage back on track. But make sure you look for a therapist who has experience in saving marriages.
6. Develop emotional intimacy and appreciation.
By carefully saving your marriage from divorce or harm, you build your emotional intimacy. Learn how to express your appreciation very well. Have time to conduct emotional check-ins to know if things are still on track.
Do everything to make them feel loved. Physical and positive affection will help you too. Leave romantic notes where they will see them; support them whenever possible. This is a way to save your marriage.
7. Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills:
Most of the challenges come from underlying and unresolved issues. Therefore, to single-handedly save your marriage, you have to know the most effective ways to deal with your conflict.
Learn to practice active listening. Make sure you understand your spouse when they are speaking; do not interrupt. Stay calm during disagreements. Use “I” statements instead of “you” when conversing; it will save you more trouble.
Conclusion:
When you consider the cost of losing your spouse and filing for divorce, you will realize that it is better to take the step of saving it. The first is that you are losing the love of your life, and the second is that you are spending your hard-earned money doing so too. However, in this journey of trying to single-handedly save your marriage, you must be sure it is something you sincerely want to do because there are so many things that will hinder you.
Be expectant
But when you know that you are trying to save a marriage when only you are ready, then you are sure your actions are worth the result you will get in the future, so just keep on working for the better days, and your marriage will be happy once more. “For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage,
I am still your friend, Murphyaik.
Feel free to let me know how I can be of help to you.
