Stay happy in marriage: 10 proven secrets to note.
It is one thing to be married, and it is another thing to stay happy in marriage for the rest of your life.
Why did I say so?
There are always going to be problems and challenges in marriage. Even those you called the best couples usually have their fair share of speed bumps.
However, the difference between that happy couples and the divorced is that while the later choose divorce as their best option in resolving the conflict in their marriage, the former considered fixing their marriage and getting it bubbling again.
Fixing a marriage still remains the best option for you if you should look back and think about the good times you shared with your spouse in the earlier stage of your marriage.
I usually advise my clients to try and recite those marriage vows, again and again, maybe that will help to bring back the memories.
Below is the list of things you will try to inculcate in your marriage if you want to stay happy in marriage for the rest of your life.
10 Proven Secrets To Stay Happy In Marriage
1) Think about what you want for your marriage:
If you are serious about fixing your marriage or staying happy in marriage, then the first thing to do is to know exactly what you want.
Get a jotter, and invite any of your best friends that you can confined on or even a private counselor and try to figure out all the things you believe to be the reasons for the problems in your marriage/relationship.
When you know the real reasons for the issues in your marriage, you have solved half of the Problems because now you know where to start solving the problems.
2) Get committed to making it work: –
Another way one can stay happy in marriage is to get committed to it from the first day.
It is not just about writing down the things you want to achieve in your marriage, but committing yourself in working with it until you succeed in fixing your marriage.
Being committed means pledging to do, give, and be your best in other to make things better in your relationship. It means sacrificing your best for your marriage because you believe in it.
There are times when things will look pretty bad, your ability to say ” I must make this marriage stand firm again no matter how bad”, is what I called commitment.
You can also make some sacrifices that will help your relationship. What would you give up or add, to bolster your relationship?
Those little sacrifices are what you can give in return for the success of your relationship.
Go ahead and do your best for your marriage, because that’s how to stay happy marriage for ever.
3) Change your attitude towards your marriage:
Re-evaluating your attitude is very important if you want to stay happy in marriage.
You know yourself, you know your impact in your relationship. If you are affecting it positively, then go ahead, but if your attitude is causing more problems then it’s time to stop.
Try and change those attitudes you believed to be the reason for problems in your marriage.
For example, if your spending habit, drunkenness is making your partner feel bad, then it’s high time you stopped.
I know it may not be an easy task to break a habit, but you have to break the habit if that’s the only thing that will make you stay happy in marriage, wouldn’t you?
4) Be nice to your spouse: –
Many couples find it hard to be nice to their spouse, instead, they choose to be the best outside. Show appreciation towards each other. Your spouse should be your best friend.
Let their happiness be your priorities, buy gifts, send romantic messages, go on romantic dates.
Just think of what will put that smiles on their faces and do it. That happiness will add to their health and your marital success.
This will help in fixing the holes in your marriage.
5) Do not blame each other: –
If you are experiencing challenges in your marriage, do not put the blame on your spouse, because blames has never accomplished any good thing than to make the matter at hand worst.
Even when the fault is from your partner, I still advise you not to blame him/ her because it will keep you away from regrets and causing other harm to your partner and relationship.
Often we point fingers, not because we want to, but because we are stressed and not seeing but, you can yourselves to others when we realize it and stop immediately.
6) Enjoy quality times together: –
Spend more time together and enjoy every bit of your stay together. Make it a memorable one for the two of you. Forget about every other thing and put more attention to your spouse. Remember it is just the two of you together.
When you spend time together, you’ll have more opportunities to talk about so many things that matter in your relationship, things that will make both of you stay happy in marriage for a long time.
When you find and talk about what is not working or working, you will.be able to bring solutions to the table and that will help your relationship grow.
7) Hold him/her to high esteem: –
I have heard a wife telling the husband that he is only good outside and not in the home. ” if your friends ask for anything, you don’t hesitate, but when I do, it takes you time to do” A wife was crying.
I am sure you have heard such too. She means that you are not making her your priority.
Treat your spouse the way you will expect him/her to treat you back. Do not allow any other thing to take the care you are supposed to give to your spouse away.
You know you love and care for her/him, but there see other things that are taking her place in your mind daily.
If you want your partner happy, then make him/her the number one.
8) Say yes when what you mean is yes: –
Try to be the best you can be to your spouse. Make him/her trust you more by becoming trustworthy. Do not make the promises you will not make any plan to fulfill. It pays to make you yes be yes and your no a no.
The truth is that it is easy to break a trust, but pretty hard to regain.
If you don’t want to suffer the effect of distrust in the future, start building trust than destroying it.
9) Know Your Partner Well:
How much do you know your mate? If I asked you to describe your mate for me, what would you say about him/her?
Did you know that the better you know your partner, the sweeter your relationship will be? Therefore take time to know that person you are about to marry; if you are married for a while now, there is a need to learn and know your partner well.
Research conducted a few years ago using a few couples shows that “When individuals have more accurate knowledge of their partners, relationship processes unfold more harmoniously.”
If you want to experience that harmonious relationship, then know him or her well.
10) Concentrate On Each Others Strengths:
All relationships are not free from troubles. You’ll sometimes be offended by your partner flaws, you may even regret knowing them in the first place. However, to be happy in marriage, you have to look past those mistakes.
Concentrate on what you know how to do best for your relationship and be sure to get things right.
Don’t get angry so quickly when there is a little mistake.
Remember, nobody is perfect and if you expect your mate to forgive you when you err, then you will have to forgive them too. ” respect is reciprocal.”
Conclusion:
There are many things you can do to make your relationship the best, start doing them now, don’t wait until things get out of hand.
Remember, if your spouse is happy, then your marriage will also be happy.
Note**
Having issues in your relationship won’t be the end of your relationship, because you can fix those issues and get your marriage back.
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