Revive Your Sex Life: 9 Ways To Your Marriage

Lack of sex or boring sex has become another big issue in marriage, which, if not properly handled, can destroy even the happiest marriage. Thankfully, there are so many ways you can revive your sex life, which I will show you soon. After so many years in marriage, your sex life has become routine, sexless, or even boring, and one of the chief causes of it is when there is a disconnect.

If your marriage sounds like what I’ve just described above, then don’t think you are alone, and don’t think your marriage is failing when there are lots of things you can do today to save it. In this post, I will show you 9 things to do to revive your sex life

As a relationship coach, I have received so many questions from my clients about their sex Like-

•   How many times can we have sex in a month?
• My wife/ husband is not always excited during lovemaking. What should I do?
• My husband’s manhood suddenly becomes weak during sex.
•  My husband doesn’t last long during sex. What is the reason?

If you have asked these questions too, then I have good news for you.
Whether your sex life has become very bad or just starting to wear out, there are so many things you can do starting today to revive your sex life and get it back to normal again. In the next 15 minutes, I will reveal all of them to you.

Here are 9 things you can Do To Revive Your Sex Life:

1) Tone up communication:

Let me ask you this question; how good is communication in your marriage?
From experience, I have found out that most couples have a lot of difficulty communicating with each other, and It is even worse when the discussion is about sex. It is either they are avoiding talking about it, or they feel too ashamed to talk about it.

However, if you’re serious and truly revive your sex life, then you should not be afraid or ashamed to talk about sex. If you are not sure about how to talk about sex in your marriage, then here are a few tips to help.

• Always start on a soft note: start by telling about your plans to connect more closely with him/her and avoid blame.
• Tell your spouse about your fears, expectations, desires, and concerns, and try to be honest about it. You must share your deepest feelings during the discussion, don’t hide anything.
• You may not say everything immediately, just understand that you may have a series of discussions, so don’t talk too long so it doesn’t become boring.
• Never be afraid to tell him/ her what you enjoy sexually and what you dislike.
  
  The conversation is necessary for every couple who wishes to tune up their marriage.
•  Never talk about sex problems after having sex, you can do that at a neutral time.

2) Create a romantic atmosphere for sweet love:

If you want to revive your marriage sex life, then understand the need to create a romantic atmosphere that will usher you into it.

To create the atmosphere, do these things.

1. Keep Everywhere Clean: It’s not easy to feel romantic when you can’t even have a little space to sit down, because of the untidiness of a place. So tidy everywhere and make it convenient for passion to flow.
2. Groom Yourself: Keep yourself fresh and clean, put on a clean outfit, and wear good perfume too. Sex was created to work with the state of mind and the environment. Make sure you remove anything that can cause distraction during sex.
3. Wear sexy dresses: This will help you to create an atmosphere of sex. Make sure your nightwear is transparent enough to show the curves and the important places, and also make your male partner wear sexy boxers and underwear too.
4. Never make sex a routine: Most couples have made their sex life a routine. They believed it is only during bedtime or when they want to have a baby is when there is a need to have sex.

No! In marriage enjoying sex means more than that. In other to revive your marriage sex life and keep it from being boring, then you should be having sex any time, anyhow, and in any place. Make your partner look forward to having sex with you and yet he/she can’t predict when or how. Just be unpredictable.

3) Creating Time Just To Touch:

Does that sound familiar to you?
Understand that your sex organs are not all you have when it comes to having good sex with your spouse. You have your hands also. Schedule some times just to touch yourselves without pressuring it to lead to sex. Caress, tickle, and give each other a good “sexual touch.” Have a bath together, hold a hand, and squeeze each other without expecting to have sex.
Sometimes, all you need to revive your sex life are those touches, and suddenly, the fire will be kindled, and the result is passionate lovemaking.

4) Ask for those things you want:

I don’t mean you should blackmail your spouse before you give sex. Absolutely no. What I am saying is that you should be open enough to let your partner know where and how to touch you passionately.

5) Know what turns you on and off:

Know what fires you up. Everyone has different hot spots. To some, it is when you kiss their nape when you touch the breast or penis. Some enjoy it when you read erotic stories. Just find out what your hot spots are and voice it out romantically. Remember, your spouse is not a magician to know all these. It’s good that you speak up when he/she is not getting the job done, however, make sure you don’t say it as blame, as it can kill the mood.

6) Exercise:

Physical activities are paramount and can help you revive your sex life. This is because whether your body will respond actively to sex depends on how good blood flows through your heart, and exercise will help you achieve that.
Engaging yourself more with aerobatic exercise will help to strengthen your blood vessels and heart.

Having good sex depends on how good your overall well-known being is; therefore, have exercises often and see how active you will be during sex.

7) Address Underlying Health Issues or Stress:

Stress, fatigue, and other health issues can negatively impact intimacy, that’s why it is important to deal with them immediately after you notice them. You can revive your sex life faster when you identify and address those physical or mental health issues that affect your sex life. If possible, see a doctor for advice and consider applying stress management techniques like yoga, meditation, or seeing a therapist.

The truth is that when your health improves and your stress level goes down, your libido will improve naturally. Start doing whatever you should now, so you and your partner will enjoy a vibrant sex life.

8) Prioritize Emotional Intimacy Outside the Bedroom:

A strong emotional bond is very important when you want to revive your marriage and sex life. Some of the ways to do that are to spend quality time with each other, always have meaningful conversations, and engage in small romantic gestures like holding hands and complementing each other.

Being close emotionally with each other creates an enabling environment where both of you feel desired and valued. When emotional needs are met, it helps intimacy to flourish naturally, and as you strengthen these bonds, you will turn everyday moments into opportunities to connect deeper with each other.

9) Experiment with New Ideas and Break the Routine:

Another way to revive your sex life is by trying some new and exciting things. You can try new sex positions or role-play some scenarios to add more colors to it. Excite your partner with unexpected gestures like sensual massage to break the routine. Being creative in the bedroom will bring excitement and help both of you to rekindle passion.

It will be much better if both of you experiment with these together. Doing so will create shared experiences that will not only help you deepen your connection but will also make intimacy something to desire and not a task.

Finally On How To Revive Your Sex Life:

If you want to revive your sex life, you have to be intentional about it, communicate well, and be creative too. Address the underlying issues and focus on building your emotional intimacy. Be ready to try new things that will reignite passion and help you improve your bond.
Keep in mind that all these are not about how often you have sex with your partner, but how exciting and meaningful the experience is.

A satisfying intimate relationship creates exciting marital happiness. I advise you to follow all the tips I shared in this post about how to improve and revive your sex life for the better.

I am still your in-house counselor, Murphyaik.

I will see you at the very top.